Blame is a destructive force. If someone is in disagreement with you, it means that you can work on your rapport. Our job as Practitioners is to maintain rapport with our clients at all times, which will enable us to be effective change agents. There are many examples in life where we judge behaviours and label people based on what we see, when really, a person is not their behaviour , and they can change their behaviour.
When in fact the person may care deeply, however they have counterproductive habits operating inside their system which they have not yet discovered how to change.
In both of these examples, there is a label, a judgement on the identity. As Practitioners we do not judge or label anyone. Behind every behaviours is a positive intent, therefore we cannot judge the person, we accept the person and change the behaviour. We cannot always see all the choices available to us, everyone is doing the best they can with the awareness and choices available at the time and underneath every behaviour is a positive intent.
When we understand the intention of the behaviour then we can lead the client to other ways that they can meet the intention and achieve the desired change. The most important information we have about a person is their behaviour.
An essential skill of an NLP Practitioner is Sensory Awareness , which enables us to calibrate on what we see and hear. If someone folds their arms, some might say they are bored, some might say they are cold. As curious Practitioners, we simply observe and take in what we see, looking for patterns, shifts, any physiological sign that something has just happened in the mind of the client.
Anything can be accomplished by anyone if you break the task down into small enough chunks. Positive Intent. Behind every behavior is a positive intent. Your email address will not be published. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Choice is better than no choice. Leave a Comment Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. At the same time, a person is not his or her conduct.
The behavior will only look negative, because we do not know its purpose. The NLP gives us the tools to reach those objectives, alternative resources that are more efficient that can expand our options as human beings, substituting the restraining behaviors or answers. Doing it in a different way, the behavior can be seen as illogical, irrational or out of place. When we reframe failure as feedback, we make way for a space to improve on our mistakes and come up with solutions or even something better than our original plan.
These presumptions create a worldview that is very different from what many people grow up in. Although the presumptions we have about the world e. The NLP presuppositions strive to enable us to be more aware of our map.
Beliefs are statements which we believe to be true about ourselves or our life. Of course, no statement like this is universally or objectively true but the impact they can have on us, our attitude and behaviour can be very real. Dilts might be an interesting read. We come across beliefs more often than we become aware. While the first quote is limiting, the second one is empowering. At metaFox, we love quotes and slogans which can serve as empowering beliefs, able to carry us through life and inspire us both during tough times and everyday situations.
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The NLP presuppositions The philosophy underlying its tools is provided by a set of presuppositions or assumptions that NLP makes about the world. Words are not the item they represent. People respond to their experience, not to reality itself. Behind every behaviour there is a positive intention. People are not their behaviour.
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